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NLP Skills - Stories

Tools and techniques to try out:

 
  Building Rapport with Other People   Anchoring Positive Feelings
  Interviews   Swish Pattern for Habits
  Success   Playing with Submodalities
  Stories   Meta Mirror
  Metaphor in team building   Your Preferred Communication Style
  Career Planning by Coaching Yourself Information on other sites
  Discover your 'Circle of Excellence'   Use the Problem Unsticker


Throughout time, stories have been used to pass complex information across generational and geographic boundaries. In recent times, stories seem to have lost some of their credibility as businesses demand more facts, figures and statistics.

If we could categorise the value of stories, would they gain more credibility? We know intuitively the best presenters and business trainers spice up their language with asides, snippets, anecdotes, case studies and, well, stories. A common marketing tool is the case study - a report of how a customer benefited from using a particular product. What is a case study if not a story?

Stories have a very simple structure - they are an account of events that are happening not here and not now.

Your brain is an analogue computer, so it is able to represent an infinite variety of signals, or thoughts - unlike a digital computer which can only represent the numerical values zero and one. Analogue computers have only one drawback - like Roman numerals, they cannot represent things that do not exist, or the number zero. Imagine an empty box. What was in it? For a digital computer, the value of "not zero" is definitely "one". For your brain, the value of "not zero" could be one, two, three, a turnip, freedom, purple, accelerate, a star or any other thought that you could have. Of course, we take information from our environment to put our thoughts into context. If that empty box had "oranges" written on the side, you would have a framework for the absence of oranges.

Stories are about someone else, somewhere else, at some other time. In order for your brain to decode the language of the stories, you interpret the events as being about you, here and now. Therefore, you can embed information in stories which relates directly to the audience but which they would critically filter out if that information were presented directly. Stories engage our emotions, too, and we know that emotional content plays a very important role in long term memory. In other words, when your emotions are 'switched on' you learn more effectively. Facts, figures, graphs and statistics rarely incite any emotion apart from boredom. Stories can arouse curiosity, instill hope, pity, fear or anger. Stories can excite, calm and thrill. Stories can divert the conscious attention of the audience away from the real information you want to convey to them.

Stories are an immensely powerful means of communication. Of course, you might not use a story to say "Our studies show that 23% of customers using this product realised a 15% increase in gross profits over a 12 month period", but then who really cares about that? Come on, be honest! If your intention is to get the audience to think "this product is worth considering" then take them on an emotional journey from doubt, through curiosity and on to an eagerness to learn more. Your audience is guaranteed to remember your presentation over anyone else's if you put this advice into practice - and isn't that the point?

 

Here's an example of a story. You may or may not think it's the best story in the world, but it demonstrates that a story can be written to suit any intended communication or audience. If you don't like the story then I challenge you to send me a better one! And that's a challenge to prove to yourself what a naturally talented storyteller you already are!

 

There was once a salesman for a company that made special metal alloys for weapons. He had traveled the world, selling his company’s products to every developed nation. He loved his job and he couldn’t help doing it, even on holiday. One year, he took his holiday in the Amazon Rainforest (it could happen!) and he came across a tribe of Indians who were hunters.

He asked them what they used for their arrow tips and they said “We hunt a wild cat that lives in the forest. We use its fur for clothing, its meat for food and it’s teeth for arrow tips. They are very sharp and easily penetrate the skin of small animals.” The salesman asked how many teeth could be used from each cat and they said “Four”. Then he asked how accurate their hunters’ archery skills were. They said “Every child serves a ten year apprenticeship to become a master archer. If they cannot shoot arrows straight, they run out of cat’s teeth and the village people have no meat”.

So the salesman immediately recognised a great opportunity, and he also realised that he needed to keep his best product until last so that he could build up his sale. He asked the leader of the village “If I could show you a way to hunt more cats, and bigger animals, with a limitless supply of arrow tips and reduce your apprenticeship for archers to just one year, would you be interested?” The wise, yet strangely gullible village leader said “Of course, can you do a presentation to my board tomorrow?”

So, the salesman showed the villagers arrow tips made from steel. They were heavier than cat’s teeth but harder and sharper. They could buy a limitless supply of arrow tips (because they happened to have a gold mine in their village that they didn’t understand the value of) so the hunters didn’t have to be so accurate. With just some basic training in how to use a bow and arrow, anyone could hunt a cat. The villagers rejoiced.

After a few days, the salesman returned and showed the villagers his titanium alloy arrow tips. They were as sharp as steel yet as light as a cat’s tooth. Now that everyone in the village was a hunter, he had more users to demonstrate the product to. Sure enough, the arrow flew further than the steel tipped arrow. To the salesman’s surprise, the villagers said “yeah, very nice, but we’re happy with our steel arrows”. The salesman said “But you’ll use fewer arrows because these will fly further” and the villagers said “So?”

The next day the salesman returned with tungsten carbide tipped arrows, and had the same reaction as the day before. He was very confused – normally his customers would be getting more and more excited.

He decided to go back to the village and show them his best product. “Look”, he said, “I have here arrow tips made with tungsten carbide tips, titanium alloy bodies and with a depleted Uranium filling.” He fired one at a tree and it went straight through, like a hot knife through butter. The villagers said “Impressive, but we don’t eat trees”. Now the salesman was really upset. Couldn’t these people see the applications of his marvellous arrow tips? Perhaps they were too stupid too understand. His wife had warned him about this when he left her by the poolside in Rio a week earlier.

The wise village leader said “We can see your arrow tips are indeed marvellous, but remember we are a simple people with simple needs. Your steel arrow tips already represent a step change in technology for us, enabling greater exploitation of our natural habitat without disturbing our learning based culture.” It turned out that a management consultant had been on holiday there just the week before. “Your top of the range arrow tips are too advanced for us. We have neither the skills nor needs to exploit their full potential, therefore we only require something that is one level better than what we have today. Besides, I’m going on a dream quest this afternoon and I’ll be off my head on psycho-active mushrooms for a few days, so I can’t make a decision until next week”

The salesman learned a very important lesson on that holiday - that he shouldn’t leave his wife alone in Rio with only a book for company, but that’s another story.

Do you know what else he learned?